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All of us want to live a peaceful and fulfilling life and unfortunately, sometimes, the people around us make it quite difficult. Here's the deal...you are in control of your life. Yes, you are in control of your life and all around you are doors...doors that you control. You have the power to OPEN or CLOSE those doors at any time you wish!
Drama creates unnecessary stress and drains the energy you need to move your life forward. So, here we go! Here are 3 ways you can ELIMINATE drama from your life!
1. Realize this: EVERYONE'S EMERGENCY IS NOT YOUR EMERGENCY. Have you ever received that urgent call from someone about something going on in their life and they expect you to solve their problem right then and there? Well, the truth is, it's not always within your power to solve every problem. It's not always possible for you to step in and solve an issue. Some issues in people's life are not within your power to resolve. I know this might sound a little ruthless and I'm not saying we should not CARE about people, but I'm saying that some people's issues can only be resolved by them making a decision to change. There's nothing you can do about that. Let them know that you love them and explain what they need to do to get help.
2. CHOOSE YOUR ASSOCIATIONS and FRIENDS WISELY. Remember, your relationships are your choice. You can decide what level of relationship you want with the people around you. You have to distance yourself from people that add negativity to your life. Jealousy and competition are so dangerous and a lot of women deal with that! Separate yourself from friends that are jealous and uncomfortable with your success. Limit your conversation with people who don't believe in you. I'm not saying we should avoid good criticism, but it definitely comes better from someone who loves you rather than someone who does not have your best interest at heart! Choose your friends wisely!
3. AVOID UNNECESSARY CONFLICT. An ancient proverb says that starting a quarrel is like opening a flood gate so stop an argument before it starts. All of us are the same and sometimes we just like to duke it out! We feel like we need to engage in arguments, but in the end it gets us NOWHERE FAST. I'm not talking about avoiding conflict or avoiding tough conversations, but I am talking about unnecessary heated arguments...they seldom end up getting you any results! Sometimes it's hard to do, but when you feel someone is trying to start an argument with you, stop it before it starts! Walk away. You can also limit your interaction with contentious people. Some people are just looking for trouble! If you're at work or having a conversation with a friend, try more and more to engage in meaningful conversation and healthy debates, but refuse to be part of heated discussions!!!
Your life, your time, your energy and your environment ARE in your control. We cannot control what other people do, but it IS possible to make choices that will limit unnecessary conflict so that we can live a peaceful life. There's a delicate balance between enabling and helping people. There's a difference between an acquaintance and a friend. You can distance yourself from people who constantly TAKE from your life, but give nothing back. Your time is YOUR PROPERTY. Control it...and make your life a DRAMA FREE ZONE!Labels: living, personal power, wellness
